First off, Thank you Zeb for being a wonderful Daddy to our three! They are blessed to have a Daddy that spends as much time and energy as you do with them!
Self-Esteem: Top 4 things that help a child to have a good one
1. There is a significant amount of acceptance on the part of the child.
2. Clearly defined and consistent boundaries.
3. Respect--no put down comments to your child.
4. If the parents tend to have good self-esteem themselves
The Daddy is responsible for 70% of a child's self-esteem...Why?
*Daddy is bigger and more intimidating than mom
*Daddy is the head of the house.
*Primarily thru affirmation--need to affirm THEIR PERSON daily--not just what they do
*Affirmation of performance needs to be conditional--you don't want to praise when they break a rule
*There is a big difference between person and performance--this parallels justification and sanctification.
If Daddy doesn't confirm, the child will either...
*get angry and rebellious--"I don't need affirmation"
*"woe is me" mindset
*"if I do a good enough job, then he will have to think I'm good"
Happy Father's Day